One of my best friends ever taught me that loving someone is never wrong. That even if it doesn't work out like you hope, even if it ends painfully, or just ends... it's never a waste of your time, attention, or energy. Loving, in fact, no matter what the situation, is always the right answer. 

That's very difficult when you really don't like someone or they've hurt you. 

So let me repeat it:  It is never wrong to love someone. 

Recently, there was a situation with a friend of mine who had a relationship fizzle out. She kept lamenting that she had wasted her time and attentions on someone who didn't deserve her. Honestly, I agree that he didn't deserve her. But it's not like you have less love simply because you gave it to someone who wasn't worthy of your attention. Conversely, the more love you give, the more love you'll get. It may not come from the desired person and it may come from somewhere that you completely weren't ready for, but it will come. 

When someone hurts your feelings, is it because you didn't love them enough? Unlikely. It's probably that you love them a great deal. Otherwise, their behavior or perceived betrayal would not have hurt you. 

It's very hard for me to love someone I don't like. It's very much a struggle to love someone who clearly doesn't love me. But it's the only way to live in gratitude and happiness. It's the only way to grow. When someone does you wrong, love them through it. 

I know! I know! You're thinking to yourself that I am out of my mind and probably a doormat. Well, I might be crazy or a hippie, but loving someone isn't about THAT person. I love because I am who I am, not because someone deserves it. That guy who cut me off in traffic this afternoon... sent some love to him. The jerk next door with the howler monkey children and out of control volume button on the really bad music he likes.... send him a little love. 

Why? Because you reap what you sow. If you're constantly hateful, negative, and angry, then you'll continue to have hateful, negative, and angry... over and over and over. 

Is this about God? Not necessarily. This is about the Law of Attraction: What you think about, put energy toward, is what you will draw to yourself. If you don't know much about it, I recommend "The Secret" ... just watch the movie, it gives you a lot of information in an easily digestible form. If you don't want to do that, you can still just observe what happens if you're an angry asshat all damned day. Or if you meet every situation with kindness and a smile...

Smiles are amazing. They're free, they are contagious, and it's also NEVER wrong to smile at someone. 

Peace, Love, and.... well... more love!